Tuesday, January 14, 2014

To my Ticket out of abuse.

Every girl needs at least one awesome girl friend. Another girl to laugh with, cry with and just be a little crazy with. I have that in a very close friend and I am forever grateful for her and also all the other awesome friends God has brought into my life. This girl pictured is different, unique and holds a special spot in my life, a spot no one else could fill or understand. She by birth, is my cousin, by bond, my sister, by choice, my best friend and by courage, my ticket out of abuse. 
She and I although our stories of abuse vary we both quietly walked through it together. She is three years younger then me and when she was 16 years old, she spoke out about her abuse and soon after helped me to do the same. She brought our abuser to trail. Even as her life and reputation were dragged through the mud and her name slandered in horrible ways, she still stood up in front of many of our family, friends and complete strangers and told her story, her truth and did so with confidence and integrity. She was able to do at this time what I couldn’t do, she found her voice and used it and because of her courage, she single- handedly broke the awful cycle of abuse that ran many generations deep in our family. Our children have now each been born into a clean healthy family of people that chose to stay and walk through the horrible mess with us that was left behind by our abuser, because of her strength and ability to find and use her voice we have rebuilt and healed so much as a family and individually. I always had a song in my heart and a story to share, but it was brought forth because of her courage and her strength.  She changed the course of my life in this one act and I know what she did was the hardest, most heart wrenching decision she ever made but from the deepest part of my heart, the part which is a mom to three healthy kids, a wife to a Godly, safe and healthy man, the part that has found its voice. I thank you for being my friend, sister and my ticket out of hell. There is truly non like you.